Sometimes something makes it necessary to restart the life you are living. It can be almost anything. It could be a failed marriage. It could be the death of a loved one. It can be a natural disaster.
In my family it was finding out without a shadow of a doubt that your daughter is being verbally and emotionally abused by someone close to them. That information sped up our two year plan to get the heck out of California, a state we could not afford to live in with our large family.
So we did it. First, we started a GoFundMe to get as much money as we could in a desperate attempt to have the money to move. We packed up our family with almost no money, only bringing what fit into the Suburban my parents gifted me days before our move. We drove up the I-5 and ended our journey in Washington state. We had nowhere to live, so we camped for the first week we were here. We had promises from Wounded Warrior Project that they had connections with a Vet care charity that would get us into a house when we got here… but while we were driving up here that charity switched all current funding to Hurricane Harvey survivors… or so we were mistakenly told. We started looking for other options to get the almost $3000 we would need to move into a house, but were struggling to come up with it.
We kept looking and finally found a place with a very understanding landlord who was willing to hold the house for us for a week if we could come up with the money. Owen had to leave the kids and I alone in an iffy-at-best motel to return to his job at the Downtown Los Angeles Kaiser. As panic that we were going to be homeless in a Washington winter began to set in a Friend, who I know for a fact doesn’t want their name advertised publicly, called Owen. Our Friend called him and basically informed him he was giving us the money (on loan) to get into our house and pay to transfer Owens MA to Washington so he could get a job here in Washington and rejoin his family.
Three days later we moved into our new home in a little town called Hoquiam, WA.
The house was built in 1907, which is freaking awesome. Anybody that knows me knows I prefer to live in older homes or maybe someday build an off-grid tiny home or Earthship home. The iffy looking home on the left of this picture is looking much better now than it did in this picture. That home is in the process of being flipped by the guy who owns it currently. They found out we had small kids and did an amazing job of getting up basically every scrap of wood or paint or nails that they had dropped.
Anyways. So that is where we are. The kids are all in school. I am home alone all day every day. I find I don’t like it. Once my health stabilizes post move I will be looking for a part time or full time job. Owen just got a job at a Kaiser clinic in Olympia. Its far in distance, but the morning commute takes the same time or a little less time than the morning commute into LA is. He will be rejoining us right around the beginning of November. The kids are bummed he won’t be here for Halloween, but they knew there was a chance he wouldn’t be here in time for Christmas… So they are stoked he isn’t going to miss the birthday/holiday gauntlet that starts with Alexander’s birthday on November 21st, goes straight to Thanksgiving a few days later, then to Aeddon’s birthday on December 16th, Christmas, then Owen’s birthday and New Years eve, both of which are on December 31st. We are also trying to decide as a family if we will be celebrating Hanukkah this year even though we cannot celebrate it with the Leventhals. Its also going to feel very wrong to not celebrate Thanksgiving with them. We will figure it all out though.
We are also trying to figure out how we are going to get all of the rest of our belongings to Washington. Owen, the two cats, my fish, and a ton of clothes, toys, books and a large TV, two bookshelves are Not all going to fit in our van…. which is also in California with Owen. Because we were not expecting his job search to go so fast we don’t have enough money saved up yet for him to rent a moving truck and a vehicle tow trailer. We need around $2500 to get it all up with Owen. The other option is to have Owen put what he can in the van, the rest into storage and then find another $100 or so a month in our budget to keep it in storage for the next six months minimum it will take us to save up that much money.
I also want to take a minute to thank everyone who contributed to our GoFundMe and to the people who either bought my children books (ours are all still in California) or helped us in some other way. I want to thank the friend who sent us a gift that enabled me to buy a used full size washing machine and dryer. Washing the clothes in the tub and hang drying them over heater vents was impractical to say the least. You have all made this move better and smoother and I am extremely grateful to every one of you that contributed, whether through money or the time to pray for us or send us good vibes.
I am going to do my best to start blogging regularly. I need something to at least mentally get me out of my lonely-during-the-daytime house and I need to at least feel like I am communicating with other adults. I also tend to actually leave my house more when I have a reason.
So that is where I am and where my family is.
Talk to you all later.